A Different Perspective on making the RIGHT Decision

Is a child too concerned over whether playing in the sand or playing with toys inside will significantly impact their identity in the future? They know they are safe now and will be safe then. They are confident in their decision because their confidence is not in decision making -- it is in their environment that their parents provide for them to inhabit and their comfort in that, is in knowing their parents. Knowing that their parents love them and care for them and accept them.

It's not that the sandbox or the toys will yield a better future -- no, each will yield abandonment to the moment, an adventure. Parents lovingly let the child choose, for there isn't a right or wrong here -- there is just life. The problem would be not choosing life, not choosing to inhabit it, not choosing to see that they are loved and free.

Does this mean the parents do not guide? Does it mean that they do not let pain or discomfort enter the environment? No, but the parent knows, protects, and provides. There is the marvelous in even the foolish and painful.